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There was only one variable that separated the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who really struggle for it. And that was, the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they’re worthy of love and belonging. That’s it. They believe they’re worthy. And to […]
We can compartmentalize our emotions for only a short period of time, but no one, no one escapes the trauma of combat. You may not even experience the trauma while you’re in it, you may not experience it when you first come home, and you may experience it months later. What comes out of COVID, […]
Our nonverbals govern how other people think and feel about us. Our nonverbals govern how we think and feel about ourselves. Our mind changes our bodies. Our bodies change our minds and our minds change our behaviour and our behaviour changes our outcomes. Power is also about how you react to stress. Both that the […]
My contention is, all kids have tremendous talents, and we squander them, pretty ruthlessly. Kids will take a chance. If they don’t know, they’ll have a go. They’re not frightened of being wrong. I don’t mean to say that being wrong is the same thing as being creative. If you’re not prepared to be wrong, […]
Seeking first to understand, as opposed to being understood. I am somebody. I was somebody when I came. I’ll be a better somebody when I leave. I am powerful, and I am strong. I deserve the education that I get here. I have things to do, people to impress, and places to go. You say […]
A series of odd jobs may indicate inconsistency, lack of focus, unpredictability. Or it may signal a committed struggle against obstacles. But if your whole life has been engineered toward success, how will you handle the tough times? But on the flip side, what happens when your whole life is destined for failure and you […]
It’s adaptability. How well a person reacts to the inevitability of change. I subscribe to the belief that adaptability itself is a form of intelligence, and our adaptability quotient, or AQ, is something that can be measured, tested and improved. The world is speeding up. We know that the rate of technological change is accelerating, […]
In a world as complex and interconnected as the one we live in, the idea that one person has the answer is ludicrous. It’s not only ineffective, it’s dangerous, because it leads us to believe that it’s been solved by that hero, and we have no role. We don’t need heroes. We need radical interdependence, […]
To achieve great heights or change the world, no matter how smart we are, we all need people. And for conventional people, the universe seems to conspire to make them successful. For the unconventional, I think we need something that I like to call “co-conspirators.” Co-conspirators are different not because they’re different themselves, but because […]
Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate. It is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light and not our darkness that frightens us. We need to get over our fear of how extraordinarily powerful we can be in each other’s lives. We need to get over it so we can […]